Spirituality

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU

A long time ago, in galaxy far, far away …actually it’s about here and now.

I couldn’t resist using Star Wars one of my favourite films and franchises.I have wanted to write about some of the observations and reflections I have about people’s behaviour during the pandemic. I wasn’t sure what to title it or how to actual phrase some of the ideas as they were forming but I think a thread has developed so here goes.

I am currently reading The 8th Habit by Stephen Covey. It’s a book that I have had for over 15 years (as you know I am a Covey and Habits fan), but had not been able to get traction into this books till now. A quote near of the beginning of the book worth contemplating is:

ALL THAT IS NECESSARY FOR THE TRIUMPH OF EVIL IS THAT GOOD MEN DO NOTHING - Edmund Burke

SEE NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL, SPEAK NO EVIL, THINK NO EVIL, FORWARD NO EVIL!

SEE NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL, SPEAK NO EVIL, THINK NO EVIL, FORWARD NO EVIL!

SEE NO EVIL, SPEAK NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL, THINK NO EVIL, FORWARD NO EVIL

You have to forward this article straight after reading it because it passes The Socrates Triple Filter Test.

I know what I am talking about, I have a PhD in Coronavirus from WhatsApp University!

There is a deluge of information being shared that is adding to the feeling of uncertainty and fear and causing us distraction. This article highlights some of the negative aspects of this and also shares the Socrates Triple Filter Test and a wonderful Prince EA video.

THE UPS & DOWNS OF A HAPPINESS COACH: CRAVING CONNECTION

THE UPS & DOWNS OF A HAPPINESS COACH: CRAVING CONNECTION

As an experiment, for my own happiness and a way to serve I am going to chronicle as a diary some of my thoughts (ups and downs) and actions during this pandemic. Things that I am doing and finding beneficial to my all round happiness and well being many based on the themes shared in Together in Isolation .

TOGETHER IN ISOLATION

TOGETHER IN ISOLATION

Together in Isolation

Finding Certainty in Uncertain Times :

Living during Coronavirus pandemic

Dedicated to every beings happiness on the UNs International Day of Happiness March 20th.

Shaileen Shah - Happiness Coach - Happy Life Habits

I started this blog article as a refreshing relish from the recent weeks of brain fog clouded by confusion, worry, uncertainty, anxiety, fear, helplessness and distraction. Anyone else felt the same?

HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS PART2

HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS PART2

This article contains some of the ideas shared at the Happier Relationship Part 2 workshop that Happy Life Habits delivered on 28 February 2020 at Shri Chandana Vidyapeeth (SCVP London) Jain School. It is a follow to Happier Relationships Part 1 which should be read and watched first.

HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS

HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS

This article contains some of the ideas shared at the Happier Relationship workshops that Happy Life Habits delivered on 14 February 2020 at Shri Chandana Vidyapeeth (SCVP London) Jain School. The follow on part 2 session is on 28th February 2020 at the same venue.

HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS EVENT DEVELOPMENT

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I’ve enjoyed the creative process to development the Happier Relationships Workshop content being initially delivered on 14th and 28th February.

I’ve drawn upon a variety of materials from Personal Development, Spirituality, The Science of Happiness, blog posts, articles and personal experience to connect ideas and develop the workshop on Happier Relationships. I am really looking forward to share these and help impact happier relationships.

The 2 sessions are part 1 and part 2 and will involve stories, science of happiness research, activities, video and slide presentation. Open to all, free, bring pen, notebook and friends.

Happier Relationships part 1 and 2

Action for Happiness have a February Calendar on Friendship/Relationships which help stimulate ideas for action for you to take.

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There is a 21 Day Simple Living Challenge on 29th February. It’s free and online. You get an email each day with an idea or activity to reflect on and action if you so wish. The email has links to a video, article or further information if you want to explore more.

A great way to shift mindset, try something new and fun and observe the benefits that lead to happiness.

Some examples are

Day 1 Declutter Your Home. Give Away At Least One Thing You Don't Need.

Day 2 Make Time To Unplug. Reduce Screen Time Today.

Day 3 Spend Ten Minutes In Silence

Day 4 Clear Out Your Inbox / Mailbox

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About the Author

Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good; supporting the UNs Sustainable Development Goals. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.

THE INEVITABLE - DEATH, THE END OF LIVING

“Life and time are the two best teachers. Life teaches us to make good use of time and time teaches us the value of life”. Over the last few years I have been attending more prayer meetings and funerals for family members, friends parents and wider community members. Each time it is a stark reminder of how short life is, not to waste time on the mundane and to do the things that matter. Also each time I am often at a loss on how best to respond, what to say and how to provide some support and solace despite deep feelings of empathy and compassion. Each time it makes me reflect on my ageing parents and in-laws and ultimately on my own life and mortality.

Leadership is an act and not a position - event with Nick Williams

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Leadership is an act and not a position

This is written with personal insights on leadership as well as from the Shishukunj Bethak with Nick Williams on 26th September 2019 where six core ideas were shared on Be Inspired. Be Inspiring. Be Yourself. Includes recording of the event and slides..

During the December of 2000 I was in leadership role as President of the Young Jains charity organisation and had travelled to India on holiday. I remember distinctly seeing a poster in a shop that resonated with me and had a lasting impact. The poster had a quote which read:

Leadership is an act not a position.

This message really hit home and stuck with me.

The first habit in one of my favourite books, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Dr Stephen Covey is the habit “Be Proactive”, this is about leadership and being responsible.

The book also explains the difference between management and leadership using a ladder metaphor.

Management is about making progress up the ladder whether that ladder is career, relationships, business, learning, purpose or personal growth. Leadership is about making sure the ladder is leaning against the right wall - your mission, values, purpose, goals.

Leadership is about doing the right things and management about doing things right.

Other books that I have read on leadership are Covey’s “Principle Centred Leadership”, Robin Sharma’s “The Leader With No Title” and “Dare - Accepting the Challenge of Trusting Leadership” by Scott Weiss. All great reads.

The focus of the Shishukunj event was on Spiritual Leadership. After greeting with Namaste, we reminded everyone that the greeting means we are bowing to the higher self, reminding us we are a Soul.

Most Shishukunj events start with the prayer “ Aasatyo Mahati….”, my interpretation and translation (which is not fully correct I am sure but works for me) of this is :

Dear Lord, lead me from what is not true to the truth,

Dear Lord, lead me from darkness to the light,

Lead me from death to peace,

Lead me to Divinity

Nick Williams an author, coach, thought leader, past director of Alternative and has spirituality at the heart of everything he does as he shares about inspiration, creativity, leadership and challenges such as resistance to these. September 2019 is the celebration of 20 years of his first of many books, the classic book “The Work We We Born To Do”. He is a humble, creative, discipline, devoted , grateful and inspiring individual. The event related to his latest book “Be Inspired. Be Inspiring, Be Yourself”. Some of the ideas that were shared were:

  • Offering Leadership Vs Leadership as a position where offering leadership is steeped in love and leadership as a position is often driven from fear.

  • It takes courage to show up

  • Best leaders have been on a journey of self leadership and lead with empathy and compassion. Self leadership is authentic, powerful and professional

  • Leadership is about drawing the best out in yourself and help others to do the same

  • “We are the ones we have been waiting for”

  • Primary purpose of leadership is to inspire

  • Inspiration has a different quality to motivation

Six core ideas:

  1. Assume your best qualities, gifts and abilities are already within you. Some are already manifest, many remain dormant are are waiting to be drawn forth. They do pre-exist so it less about self improvement and more about self cultivation. Always an invitation to blossom.

  2. Seek to be inspired and inspiring, come from a place of personal inspiration at least some of the time. Stoke the fires of inspiration, source of inspiration never goes away. What will inspire you next? The most power relationship: Being a willing collaborator. Whatis your next chapter? How will you inspire yourself next?

  3. Understand that inspiration has an “evil twin” that is called resistance. Resistance - all our ego’s petty responses to the amazing power, ideas and creative impulse of your Soul.

  4. Make friends with your vulnerability. Become comfortable with your discomfort. As we step outside the comfort zone we grow.

  5. Show Up! Even in small but bold and brave ways. The world is poorer when our resistance wins. It is about sharing the light with others and not taking the spotlight.

  6. Commission yourself. Initiate. Take responsibility.

What are your next steps of being an inspired leader? We are all leaders whether we have a leadership position or not as we may have roles of parent, family head, team lead, teacher, community leader and world citizen.

If you would like signed copies of Nick’s books get in touch.


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Added Value Resources

The recording of the event.

The slides used at event.

Here is a TED talk I love about every day leadership

We have all changed someone's life -- usually without even realizing it. In this funny talk, Drew Dudley calls on all of us to celebrate leadership as the everyday act of improving each other's lives.

About the Author

Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good; supporting the UNs Sustainable Development Goals. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.


WHAT’S MY PURPOSE? WHY AM I HERE?

(This article was commissioned for the Young Jains Magazine on the theme of Purpose Summer 2019)

These questions and other related ones are what many of us ponder and ask ourselves at various points in our life. Some find answers and begin living their purpose, others keep searching and some stop asking or never asked.

Why be Happy, Healthy, Wealthy and Wise?

This article was written for the Oshwal Health and Care Fair Brochure as part of the Oshwal Health and Care Fair in June 2019 where Happy Life Habits had a talk on Stress and Resilience.

Why be Happy, Healthy, Wealthy and Wise?

Recently I read

“You only live once. That is incorrect! You die once but you get to live every day.”