Gratitude

Happy New Year? Life Goes On

Happy New Year? Life Goes On

We started and ended 2023 with grief. In January my aunt passed away and last week on Wednesday my father in law.

This is Life

Since the Review 2023 blog in early Dec life has radically changed. One weekend we are celebrating Christmas with family; joyful moments, lovely food, games, photos and conversations making memories.

The following weekend, having the funeral for my father in law, feeling shock, disbelief, grief, sadness and much more. This is Life - joys, happiness and sadness, grief. 

A Christmas Care - Role (Carol) Who Cares? for the Carer? Dementia/Parkinson's/Old Age/Grief/Loneliness

A Christmas Care - Role (Carol) Who Cares? for the Carer? Dementia/Parkinson's/Old Age/Grief/Loneliness

In the story of Jesus’ birth there are three kings who come bearing gifts. In Charles Dickens’ The Christmas Carol there are 4 ghosts who visit Ebeneezer Scrooge. His business partner Jacob Marley and the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Future.

On 11th Dec 2020 our world changed when my father suddenly passed (https://www.happylifehabits.co.uk/news/2020/12/24/live-love-learn-amp-legacy) away within 36 hours. He was the primary carer for my mum. We had the gifts and ghosts of : Old age, Grief, Loneliness, Parkinsons and Dementia. That was part of our inheritance.

Without those gifts and ghosts this article would not be written, published and shared.

As time goes by the probability that someone close to you will be impacted by dementia is increasing. 

“One of the hardest things in life is to know that you can not stop the decline as you witness firsthand the diminishing cognitive capacity of a loved one due to progressive incurable neurological conditions such as Parkinson’s or Dementia. 

To observe them becoming a shadow of themselves day by day; the impact on their physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual wellbeing. Knowing there is nothing you can do to stop that decline. Experiencing the loss each day as anticipatory grief.” 

Shaileen Shah - Carer, Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker and Trainer.

This article is about my role as a carer for my mum who is elderly, grieving, lonely and suffering from the progressive and incurable neurological conditions of both Parkinson’s and Dementia. It shares the perspective of the carer, the challenges faced, how best to look after yourself as well as how to look after and interact with someone who has these conditions or someone you are caring for. 

I salute all those who are carers of any type and ask you to support those who you know who are doing a caring role.

3 is The Magic Number

3 is The Magic Number

Three is a magic number. Many good things come in 3s and it is small enough for our brains to work with.

I had put a request out on LinkedIn and Facebook. I am working on a blog article related to things in 3s such as:

Mind, Body and Spirit

Heaven, Earth, Hell

Past, Present, Future

Gas, Liquid, Solid

Creator, Maintainer, Destroyer

or 3 positive words such as

Enthusiastic, Inspiring and Encouraging

Any 3s that come to mind for you that I may be able to include in the article?

What 3 virtues would you like to be remembered for?

What are 3 items of clothing that give you joy?

Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic

Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic

Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic

2, 4, 6 8 Who Do We Appreciate?

Do you sometimes amaze yourself?

We often succumb to the inner critic we all have who tells us we can't do it, we not worthy, we are not good enough, it's going to fail etc.

I believe we have an Inner Cheerleader too.

Gratitude is my Super Power

Gratitude is my Super Power

Gratitude is my superpower. When I am immersed in the feeling of gratitude I come alive, have hope, optimism, see some many possibilities, am creative and very productive. My whole energy is different - feel very positive, connected and grounded.

  • Gratitude is my Superpower

  • 7 THINGS THAT AFFECT YOUR VIBRATORY FREQUENCY FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF QUANTUM PHYSICS

  • What are your Superpowers?

  • Thanksgiving

  • Inner Compass Good Life

  • Outstanding Black Friday Offer

Back to the Future: Creating memories to Savour

Back to the Future: Creating memories to Savour

The word savour (savor in American English) is an interesting word, it is a verb. It has at least 2 meanings in the dictionary:

  1. To fully enjoy the taste or smell of something

  2. To fully enjoy a time or experience

The 7+ Highly Effective Morning Habits of a Happiness Coach

The 7+ Highly Effective Morning Habits of a Happiness Coach

Recently I had the opportunity to contribute to a feature in the Metro on Tips for better/happier/mentally healthier mornings. I submitted my morning Happy Life Habits and was very pleased that they used a few of them. I hope you find them useful and take action to apply them. We have trained many on Gratitude and Journaling. If you need support you know who to call (Not Ghostbusters but Shaileen at Happy Life Habits!).

What strategies do you use to keep calm through challenging situations?

What strategies do you use to keep calm through challenging situations?

On the Happy Life Habits Community Facebook Group we regularly share quotes, reflective / thought provoking questions, articles and events. We recently asked “What strategies do you use to keep calm through challenging situations?” and have a good response to it.

May prove to be useful this month as students get their “A” Level and “GCSE” results.

SIX MONTHS OF EXCUSES OR SIX MONTHS OF PROGRESS?

SIX MONTHS OF EXCUSES OR SIX MONTHS OF PROGRESS?

It is pretty much 30 years since I graduated from University. My son has just sat his “A” level exams hoping to embark on his university journey. There is a lot to reflect on and a lot has changed. Let’s focus on the last 6 months.

How are your New Year’s Resolutions going?

What are your strengths and why be aware of them?

What are your strengths and why be aware of them?

What are your strengths and why be aware of them?

  • What am I doing here?

    I hated every minute, every moment.

  • Patience is a virtue…

  • Marketing is about Values says Steve Jobs

  • Last 100 Days or so plus next 100 Days or so

  • Mental Health Awareness Week 9 -15 May 2022 : Theme Loneliness

  • Pay it Forward Fund

Self Care for Blue Monday

Self Care for Blue Monday

The 3rd Monday in January is known as Blue Monday when many people feel at their lowest, depressed and unhappy.

This is supposedly due to some factors occurring at a similar time which include Christmas being a fading memory, payday still a week away, January bills coming through, rest of the year still to go through, high hoped resolutions broken, cold, gloomy weather, pandemics, working in office/ from home, world crisis’ and such factors.

11th November : Today I am reminded...

11th November : Today I am reminded...

I am reminded that memories creating and remembering are important…

Saturday 13th November is World Kindness Day. When we practice kindness we release the happy chemicals in ourselves, in those who receive the kind act and also in those who witness it. It’s what I call the Triple Whammy.

What is the difference between skills and values/qualities?

Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop